When it comes to other people, we tend to attribute causes to internal factors such as personality characteristics and ignore or minimize external variables. Psychologists refer to this tendency as the fundamental attribution error; even though situational variables are very likely present, we automatically attribute the cause to internal characteristics.
To whom it concerns:
When I gave up my job,
it was because I wanted to be a lady of leisure,
spend all my savings
and then beg for hand outs to keep a roof over my head
to malinger and scrounge to my hearts content.
When I stopped going on holiday,
it was because I lost my sense of adventure and
preferred the comfort and safety of my own back garden.
When the lure of listening to live music, shouting ‘more’,
giggling at the worst plays ever,
or meandering through art galleries
with tea and cake to follow,
couldn’t drag me from the sofa,
it was because my joy of life had expired.
Oh dear. So wrong!
When I stopped chasing balls on the tennis court,
throwing balls down an alley,
launching a dart through space,
being a whizz at table football, bar billiards and
frankly rubbish at snooker,
it was because I preferred to sit quietly at home
playing Solo. Alone.
Are you mad? Wrong again!
When I failed to show my face at weddings and funerals alike,
it was because I had taken against ceremonies and rituals
and had no desire to share others’ happiness and sorrow
to celebrate love or mourn a passing life.
Wrong, wrong, wrong! Do you know me at all?
When high days and holidays came and went,
meals out with friends passed me by,
Auld Lang Syne was sung without me,
just dropping by for a chat and cuppa stopped,
it was because I had become socially phobic, or anti-social,
at the very least I must have been depressed,
for year and year after year….
Or maybe, I got so ill that these things were beyond me?
But no one could be that ill could they?
Not for so many years?